Game Ball!

Tyler's first baseball game of this season happened this weekend.  He was excited to get out there and play (and to learn that they get icees after games in this league too).  He struggled a bit in the first game.  This is his first year playing machine pitch and it takes some getting used to!  Not to mention that this is also the first year they are playing "real" baseball - with strikes and outs and learning to throw the ball where it needs to be rather than just to first base.  Before, all of the boys got to bat and run the bases.  Now, you get five machine pitches (but three strikes) and aren't guaranteed to get on base.  So, in the first game he didn't get a hit in his two at-bats.  He was discouraged (although he did like that he fouled one over the backstop), but I tried to let him know that if he kept working at it he would get it.  Well, in the second game he did seem to "get it" more, and did great!  He had two really good hits, caught a ball for an out and threw another for an out at home - and generally just seemed to be beginning to understand (and enjoy) the game.  The coach gives one player a game ball after each game and Tyler earned it for the second game!  He was ecstatic!!!

We have a little drama with the kids - but we always knew it was coming and hopefully are prepared to handle it in a way that is positive for both of them.  Tyler received letters in his school folder yesterday addressed to us (and they were stapled and he didn't open them - I had to praise him for that since it is not like him not to be nosy/curious) that said he was being invited to participate in advanced reading and math classes.  He asked why he had to do it and we explained that it was a good thing - that they would give him some fun and challenging math and reading activities to work on (instead of him having seemingly constant time to doodle - which he likes, I know).  Katie overheard the conversation and asked us why she didn't get to do it, too.  That is a tough one to explain to two kids that are used to sharing everything, doing all of the same things, and being equally praised.  Katie is a great student and is very bright and she is an awesome athlete (something she hasn't realized yet - but that will almost certainly become apparent as they get older), but she doesn't need or want extra academic challenges.  Tyler is not as good of a student when looking at classroom behavior and staying on task, but his brain really does seem to work differently than a lot of other children, and he truly enjoys learning new math concepts and problem solving, and deciphering puzzles and reading books that are well above grade level.

 I think this time devoted to different types of work will be great for him - just like I think it would be miserable for Katie.  She deals with school work and does what the teacher asks, but really just looks forward to recess, lunch and any other time she can be social and silly.  She is still upset, though, that she feels like Tyler is getting to do something she doesn't and she said "Tyler is smarter than me and everyone knows it."  We explained to her that they are both very smart, that we are proud of both of them for trying hard and giving everything their best effort,  that everyone is different (teachers included), and that all things are not going to be the same as they get older (we used the example of eagle feathers that they receive for good behavior or answering questions in the classroom that can then be used to "purchase" things from the school store - Katie had more than 80 and bought something yesterday while Tyler only had 40 or so and didn't have enough to buy what he really wants).  I foresee this situation arising for many years to come - when one of them makes a team and the other doesn't, when one is invited to something that the other is not, etc., etc.  We will deal with it as best we can, and hope that we can ensure that both kids are confident and and proud of their unique talents and strengths, and maybe we can even convince them to be proud of each other, too!

Bad Parent

My children like school (so far)!  They are bright, and eager to learn and do well in class and on tests and assessments, and with reading and math, and with projects, etc., etc.   Each evening I check K & T's folders to see what has been sent home,and check to see if there is anything I need to sign or stay on them to get completed.  If  I notice that they have gotten anything incorrect on graded work I sit down with them and make sure they understand it (or get Lance to if it is math since new math is too much for me).  I sit with Katie and try to get her to work on her handwriting and remember when words need to be capitalized.  We make math flash cards, and I give spelling tests.  We really do make school and learning a priority.  It just isn't always the top priority.

I received an email this morning from Tyler's teacher that today was the third time Tyler didn't finish his homework.  I reminded her that last Wednesday he received a "homework pass" because it was his birthday, but she's basically correct. One Thursday when it seemed we had a million things to do at work and outside of work and when we were scrambling to get home, get everyone fed and get to baseball practice at 7:00 -  I let it slide.  Then, last night, I did it again. Granted, I didn't realize last night that what he didn't do actually was his daily homework ( it was just a worksheet torn from a Common Core Curriculum book that said Monday and Tuesday on it and I thought the teacher was just showing what they would have worked on Monday if they had been in school and what they had done that day), but it wouldn't have hurt to do it anyway, just in case. 

Last night, instead of doing what I now know was homework, we watched Katie, who was dressed from head to toe in gifts she received for her birthday, dance around being the "purple Princess Fairy."  We saw some good US Open tennis on TV (the kids thought it was funny that sisters - Serena and Venus Williams - were playing against each other instead of playing doubles), and had an interesting discussion with Tyler.  He asked Lance how much he makes when he sells a house (he has really been trying to get a handle on what things cost, what you need to make to pay bills, etc.).  Tyler has a good grasp of math concepts so Lance explained percentages and had Tyler working out the commission if he sold a $100,000 house and got 3% but had to give 20% of that to his boss and set some aside for taxes (then we had to explain taxes).  Working it all out in his head (without paper), and before I was able to get the answer - Tyler figured it out! That led to Katie wanting to get in on the "prove what math you know" action - and a pretty nerdy (but worthwhile, I think) family discussion ensued.  By the time I realized that it was getting late we had just enough time for their required 30 minutes of nightly reading (has to be in their reading log and both kids are very particular about writing exactly how many minutes and pages of what books they have read), and it didn't even cross my mind to have Tyler complete the worksheet.  

Tyler told his teacher that he didn't have time to do his homework.  That is obviously untrue, but I totally see how a 7 year old, with a parent who undervalues "busy work" and thinks family time and being active is very important, could think that.  He could have done it in aftercare, but to him that is when he gets to play basketball, and build things with legos and blocks with friends that aren't in his class - not homework time (and since they have PE only twice a week - I like him getting to play some, too).  He could have done it instead of going to his tennis lesson (for obvious reasons I think it is great to have a sport you enjoy, though).  He could have done it while eating dinner, or taking a bath, or instead of a bath, I guess (but probably not such a good idea since he did go to tennis and play basketball).  He could have done it instead of the required 30 minutes of reading he did from 8:30 - 9:00 (30 minutes after we would really like for them to be in bed anyway).  And he definitely could have done it instead of the 30 minutes we spent after dinner sitting on the porch doing "nothing."  

The point is, that he definitely could have gotten it done - there would just have to be a trade-off.  Tyler and I are now both in trouble with his teacher.  I do understand that it is important to fulfill your responsibilities and that kids learn to be more disciplined and accountable when they have to complete homework.   I know that I have to be the one to tell him that homework is not optional.  I have to be the one to tell him that we would love for him to sit and talk with us, or that yes, we will accept his challenge of a game of HORSE, but only AFTER his homework is done.  So, instead of explaining to the teacher that we typically don't get home until 6:00, that yes we do play soccer and baseball and that we actually think those activities are as valuable as a busy work homework sheet, that I generally like for my kids to bathe and eat regularly and that those two things do take time each evening, that the amount of sleep they get now results in their current "good behavior" and that she definitely does not want to see tired Tyler, and that I honestly don't think it is a big deal that my 7 year old isn't spending an hour a night concentrating on school (especially since every piece of work sent home has doodles and drawings on the back as if class time is not being maximized), I will just vent here :)!  I will definitely work on being a better parent, too.  I will make Tyler re-prioritize homework (Katie does not have homework).  I will assure the teacher that we will make every attempt to turn in work daily. And I will  try to make sure that, despite the kids having two working parents and probably more activities than they should, they don't feel like they don't have time to do their homework, play outside, AND enjoy family time for as long as they will indulge us!  

Birthday Celebration

Well - the birthday party was this weekend and the kids had a blast!  The adults were mostly just hot - but I was glad for no rain.  They set the inflatable up in the morning and with the exception of when we made them go with us to Publix to pick up the cake and ice, and last minute party supplies - the kids played all morning and then during the party and then some after!  We definitely got as much use out of the slide and bouncer as we could!  The slide was on a slight downhill and it was pretty serious!  The kids were flying down it and I was afraid the whole time that someone was going to get hurt (a girl did fly off the end after the party and I put a stop to the kids going down at that point - figure we had pushed our luck to the limit)!  Lance and I tried it out, as well, and once was enough for me.  I almost ended up on the grass, too!  It really was fun, though, and the kids said it was the "best party ever" so I'm glad we finally relented and let them have a big blow-out. There were about 25 kids in attendance which made it pretty chaotic, but really fun!

A few pics!

 Notice how perilously close to the edge she is and then that she doesn't land until the corner (often with a face plant)!   

  Katie looks "thrilled" - I think there was some kind of debate over who got the cake toppers!  

Because we are insane, we let the celebration continue on Monday!  A client of Lance's gave us four tickets to Holiday World.  We had never been and had heard that it was fun - and since we love water parks we wanted to go when it was still open.  That meant Monday after the party was the only day we could do it - so, exhausted and worn out after our big day on Sunday (and with some things still not put away from the party - but oh, well) we drove to Santa Claus, Indiana to spend the day at Holiday World.  It was awesome!  They have great water slides and play areas and we didn't even get to do everything in the water part.  We definitely didn't hit all of the areas of the amusement park side either (they have Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween, and 4th of July sections) - but we did some rides, too!  We were all worn out with aching legs (the park is surprisingly hilly, and we had been running around all day on Sunday) so we left at about 4:30.  We all wanted to do more, but the walk to the car confirmed that we left when we needed to!  It was a great day and we will definitely go back.  My phone (aka camera) died almost immediately so I didn't get many pictures (couldn't have anyway when we were in the water park - where we spent most of our time), but it was so kitschy (in a really fun way) that I wished I could get more!  The whole time it reminded me of Wally World on National Lampoons Vacation and they even played "Holiday Road" a few times while we were there - it was great!

Happy Birthday, Kiddos!

Well, as hard as it is to believe - the kiddos are 7 years old!

They had to spend the day of their actual birthday at school and didn't seem to enjoy that too much!  They took treats, and were sang to on the bus, but I guess they didn't think there was enough "celebration."  That night, though, we went to one of their favorite restaurants - the Japanese steakhouse - and had a great birthday dinner.  We lucked out and got a great hibachi chef who was really engaging, and the highlight (for Tyler, at least) was the birthday song accompanied by the gong and then our family picture posted on the wall!

 Tyler jumped the gun - he was anxious to blow out his candle and get into the cake (or as he says - "cheesecake, one of my favorite kinds of cake"). 

 Katie didn't want to mess up the chocolate writing! 

 They both caught shrimp being thrown at them!

Their birthday party is this weekend and it should be fun and definitely celebratory!  They didn't get to invite all of their new classmates (we thought that would be a bit awkward since we are new to the school and didn't necessarily want a bunch of strangers hanging out at the house), but we did invite friends from sports teams, and playing at the pool, and that they know through friends of ours, and in-town family that they really want to be there - so I think there will be enough people to give it a true party atmosphere even if the entire class (as is mandated if one is invited) isn't there.  I think they will look back and feel like 7 is special even though, so far, I think they have their doubts.  That is mostly our fault -  a while back we gave them the choice of a party or presents from us, but not both (we offered a smaller get together and presents, or a big party and no gifts).  They chose the party and we stuck to the no presents thing (I know, most people are saying we are really mean - but the parties are expensive and they don't need a thing toy-wise), but hopefully having fun with their friends and family on Sunday will be worth the wait!

Catch-up!

Wow, time sure did get away from me!  I don't think it is possible to cover all that we've been up to for the last five months - but I'll try to hit the highlights.  The kids finished first grade - Katie earned the math award and we were really proud because by the end of the year she was "getting it" when she was struggling a bit early on.  Tyler was a reading machine and got an award for most books read (and luckily they had to take a quiz on the books to get points to prove they were actually comprehending the stories). The end of the year was bittersweet since it was our last time at that school, but we have great memories from Kindergarten and First Grade!  One of the funniest is of Tyler's attempt to cut his own hair.

This was the before picture - and as you can tell I was not very happy with him when I made the discovery.  

 This was after and the shortest haircut he has ever gotten!  I drove him immediately to the barber!!!

We settled in to the new house and are still loving it!  We really like that the kids have lots of room to play, and we have great outdoor space to hang out and grill.  The kids have kind of migrated back into the same room at bedtime, but occasionally they will seek out their own space for a bit.  We are fine with letting them share, for now, and for them to have an opportunity to talk about their day at the end of the day since they are getting used to a new school, new friends, new routines, new everything!  

It was a busy summer, and fun-filled, at least for the kiddos with the exception of Katie's first big injury.  Tyler accidentally swatted her in the nose at a tennis lesson, but luckily they were able to use glue instead of stitches and we had our pediatrician do it rather than having to go the hospital.  You can barely see it in this pic - but it is at the bridge of her nose and will leave a scar.  She has lots of oh so cute freckles for it to blend into, though!

I actually had a surgery, too (hysterectomy - that now at 12 weeks out seems like the best decision ever) right as summer began.  My awesome mom came to help me recover and take care of the kids.  They went home with her, and then to visit my dad for a couple of weeks and had a great time in Florida.  When they came back I was more on the road to recovery and got to spend a few weeks as a Stay at Home Mom (never been able to do that before)!  We went to the pool, had picnics at the park, they got to take tennis and golf lessons in the middle of the day, and a lot of the time we just played at the house like in the summers that I remember from my childhood!

I wasn't able to get in the water until August, but I still had fun watching these two make friends and swim while I got to read and play Candy Crush :)!  

 They both did a mini golf camp and are excited to be learning to play!  

I let them play in the sprinkler behind our house not realizing that it is a very, very powerful stream of water.  It didn't last long - but we set up our own slip n slide that was pretty fun too!  

My sister and family came to visit In July and we discovered another perk of the new house - an awesome fireworks show put on by a neighbor that can be seen from our deck.  It rained on 4th of July, but the boys still shot a few fireworks of our own (the neighbors waited until the day after to do their show) and the cousins had a great time together, as usual!

The remainder of the summer was spent at camps.  The kids practiced a lot at the pool before camp started and were so proud to pass their swim test!  It was a BIG deal, because passing the swim test not only means that you don't have to wear a life jacket, but it also gives you access to the pool waterslides!  

   
There was no camp available the week school started, and it didn't start until Friday so we took a short beach vacation.  The water was rougher than I ever remember it being (when there aren't storms and bad weather), but we didn't have much rain and it was good to have some beach time and good food before the craziness of a new school year began!

School is now pretty much in full swing.  The kids like their new school (Tyler says he misses the old one, but this one is okay too), they are riding the bus for the first time ever and think that is awesome (I do too, since it picks up right in front of the house), and they seem to be settling in pretty well - making friends, and remembering the school routine!

First Day! You can tell that Katie was nervous, but she did fine and has proclaimed every day to be a 10 out of 10.  They both like that they can wear whatever they want this year!   

I like most things about the school - the aftercare program is much better, they have smaller classes and fewer students so everyone gets to know each other a bit more (their old school had 8 2nd grade classrooms and the new one has 4), they are taking things like typing class, and have computer lab time daily which I think is a good addition, and so far they haven't implemented some of the crazy things we experienced last year like intervention/enrichment that meant Tyler was sitting in his classroom doing nothing  for an hour every day, or giving obscene amounts of homework that has to be finished in addition to 30 minutes of reading daily.  It's still early, though, and I would not be surprised in the least if things change soon. I'm really hoping, though, that homework stays at the manageable level it is at now.  This week Katie learned to ride her bike without training wheels and Tyler and Lance played catch and basketball and putted on the green for hours, and both kids played outside every day when we got home.  None of that was possible last year because they had hours of homework to do on days that we didn't have activities. It helps that the weather has been absolutely gorgeous this week - a touch of Fall almost!  Unfortunately, the nice temperature and sunshine doesn't really change my opinion on what I hate about the new school - it is impossible to get to from my work!  It takes me an hour or more every day to get the kids in the afternoons!  We have had to miss tennis lessons, were 30 minutes late to the first soccer practice (that starts at 5:00 - which is a bad time anyway), and the kids have even been the last ones to be picked up - all because if I don't manage to leave work before 4:30 I am not able to get there until 5:30 or after!  Hopefully I will figure out a better way or get a new job ;)!

Soccer practices and games have started for Katie, and baseball games (already doing practices) will soon begin for Tyler.  He is in a new league (machine pitch - real rules) this year that is closer to our house and their new school and he is loving it!  He has already learned more than two years combined in only two practices, but is is much more intense!  Practice doesn't start until 7:00 in the evening and ends at 8:30 and then they have a second practice, also for an hour and a half, on Sunday evening.  He likes it, though, and the times actually work better than trying to get somewhere during rush hour - it just seems so late!  It probably seems late, however, because it is hard to believe that my "babies" are going to be 7 years old.... next week! We are having a birthday party at the house for them this year, and they get to choose where we eat on their actual birthday so the kids are super excited for birthday time to finally be here (they are also tired of being the only 6 year olds in their class), but first we have to get through a crazy busy weekend that I think may be an indication of what all of the weekends to come will look like!  Sports, and birthday parties, and sleepovers, and get-togethers that require babysitters - but it is so much fun, for all of us!  I will try to do a better job of posting from now on!

"Spring Break"

The kiddos are officially on Spring Break this week, but we had our grand adventure last week.  Our family and my sister's family all went to Disney and had a blast!  This was the best trip so far for us in terms of the kids age and height.  They were able to ride most everything (and loved the ones that can be quite scary - Tower of Terror, Mission Space, Expedition Everest and Tyler's favorite Space Mountain), and had no problem making it all day and then staying up until fireworks in the evening.  School was supposed to be out Wednesday - Friday and we were originally going to miss only two days, but snow changed those plans and we were out the whole week.  Oh well, it was worth it - we have so much fun at the parks, hanging with my sister and her husband, and the kids absolutely love time with their cousins!

The weather was awesome (especially considering that this weekend is supposed to be below freezing here at home again), and we spent lots of time at waterparks and in the pool at the rental house.

The parks were super crowded (worse than we have ever seen them) so we didn't get to do much other than fast pass stuff (and didn't make it on the new Mine Train because of the perpetual 90 minute wait) - but our days worked out pretty great - we did  all of our fast pass rides and short wait rides in between in the mornings, went home for a little in the afternoons (when we weren't at the waterparks) and then back to parks for fireworks and light shows and a stroll around the countries in Epcot in the evenings.  We had some good food, and we were exhausted (time change on top of different time zone, the nature of Disney, staying up way too late) - but I am so glad that we opted for a repeat visit this year!

Enjoyed seeing all the characters made out of flowers.  

 Saw the new Frozen show and loved it!

 Rode Mission Space, and Space Mountain multiple times!

 Enjoyed the waterparks, especially Tyler's favorite - the zip line!  

The worst part of the whole trip was the drive home, since we always get stuck in Atlanta for hours and this time was no different.  We made it though, and had lots of work to do the Sunday after we got back since our old house closed on Monday (woohoo)!  We finished moving out and cleaning right as the new owners were pulling up and now we just have to get our house re-organized with all of the new junk we brought over, and we will start to feel settled.  Soccer games and baseball practice are on the agenda for this weekend, and every weekend through June really.  Unfortunately, we found out that Tyler's soccer and baseball games conflict every weekend in April and May and he will likely choose baseball - but we will try to work it out so he can do both.  This is obviously the last year for that - he will have to pick his favorite next year.  Katie is begging to start tennis lessons again and they both want to learn to play golf.  I love all of the interest in sports - we just need more hours in the day!  Katie, fortunately, has not seemed to notice that we cancelled her gymnastics class - and is really looking forward to her first soccer game this weekend - so I think it will all work out!

All Moved In!

Well, moving day was last week and even though we don't have everything over from the new house (it doesn't close until the end of the month),  we are officially living in the new one.  My dad and uncle came up to help (huge thank you to both of them) and the moving seemed endless, but it was worth it.  The new house is wonderful - we are loving it already!  On Saturday we had a few people over for a little impromptu birthday party in lieu of the dinner we originally had planned (the kids were with So-So - big thank you for that, too), and then on Sunday we enjoyed decent weather for a change and played basketball, a little golf, and Katie drove her toy jeep around the driveway for hours.  It is fabulous to have the space for the kids to play outside without me having to be out there to guard the road.  The view is better snow-covered, but much more fun as grass!

We also used moving as an opportunity to get the kids into separate bedrooms.  Katie was a big help putting her new bed together and was proud to sleep in her own big girl room.  She wants her own space (and has for a while), but when it comes to bedtime she wants to have Tyler to talk to.  They have been talking across the hall a bit right before they go to sleep, but it isn't as bad as I expected - knock on wood!

Tyler has had a little trouble adjusting (he slept on the floor in Katie's room two nights ago), but they are getting better sleep and getting used to it!  He is happy to have all of his switch and go dinos in his room now, though, and he has become a little reader and likes that he can settle in and read a little bit in the evenings without Katie bothering him.  They are actually sleeping too well lately, but that is probably a result of the time change.  They have been difficult to wake up the last couple of days which doesn't help since we are further away from school than we were before (not much, though) and we don't exactly know where everything is kept yet (backpacks, snacks, shoes, etc.).  We will get used to it, probably on Friday when we leave for Spring Break and they won't have school again for two weeks and a day!  All of the snow and ice messed with the days they officially have off, but our plans could not be changed so we are heading out anyway!

We are about the get even busier (I did not think that was possible - the last month has been insane).  Soccer has started for both kids (actually missing their first games for Disney), and baseball practice has started for Tyler, plus my tennis season starts in a week (playing on Sundays only this year and hoping to get to play at least a few times even though Lance has to work and I will need to figure out something for the kiddos), and work ramps up as usual for both of us in the Spring.  This stuff is fun busy, though, and I am very glad to have the packing and moving, utilities, bills, address change, what did we forget busyness almost over with.  Fingers crossed that the old house closes as hoped at the end of the month so we aren't adding to the tasks having to put our house back on the market!